Tiffany Bacon Grandstaff
What do you think makes a woman sexy?
I think confidence has a lot to do with it. If a woman feels good in her own skin and exudes femininity, then I think that is what makes her sexy to herself (and whoever she is trying to attract). The greatest leaders were so successful because they never let on for a second that they didn’t believe every word they were saying. Confidence can change the world, and sexiness runs on the same system.
Can a woman learn to be sexy or is it an inherent trait?
For some women, sexiness is inherited; but for the most part, being sexy is something you learn through trial and error. “Ain’t ever been shit, won’t ever be shit.” With that said, I think it’s important to consider that no matter what you build, it requires a strong foundation. This shit is not for the faint of heart.
How did you get your smokin’ body back after having children?
I’m a freak of nature. No, seriously: I just stayed active while I was pregnant. It didn’t hurt that I was petite to start out and that I had mad morning sickness, but after I had my sons I just didn’t wait to get back up off my ass and do the damn thing. I made myself get up when I was tired like a mean step-parent. I pushed my son in his stroller really fast too; that seemed to help.
What do you enjoy doing most?
I run my own business as a freelance writer, so I have a lot of friends stop by my home office. We sit around my desk/kitchen table and shoot the shit and sometimes I sing for their eager asses. The acoustics are pretty good in my kitchen. I absolutely adore doing my job, so I am living the dream of doing exactly what I love and getting paid for it.
What made you want to be a writer?
I can’t remember ever wanting to be anything else, besides maybe a weather girl (after the release o the movie “Twister”), a singer, and the goddess Isis (seriously). To me, the power of language is one of the most important things in the world. To be able to shape and mold language to do your bidding is what separates beasts from men.
Which author inspires you the most?
I started my obsession with Robert Fulghum. Now, I really like David Eagleman, especially his kick ass book “Sum”. Only 3% of the population reads and I think that’s lame as hell, Eagleman’s book “Incognito” explains a lot about why people are so disappointing in this area. You want something good to read and get you addicted; try out some Hunter S. Thompson. Smart people turn me the fuck on.
What style of music inspires you the most?
Classical music is my heavy metal. I really dig jazz and blues too. When I am trying to get inspired or start work, I turn on some hardcore Rap or Hip Hop (a lot of the time, something from NuOrder Ent.) and then I maintain my mojo with some jazz or classical. Everyone has their own process; mine just has class and variety.
What advice would you give an aspiring artist or writer?
If you want to make it then you have to decide for yourself if the juice is worth the squeeze, and then you have to be willing to walk the coals. Remember, nothing worth doing is ever easy; and nothing easy is ever worth doing.
How does music influence your daily life?
It is literally the engine that keeps me going. It’s everything that is awesome about me because I no matter what I do, I have a soundtrack going on in the background. On a purely physics level, we are all energy and sound. So, I guess you could say that music is what I live and breathe. That’s why I like my music loud.
Who has had the biggest influence on your life?
My daddy; enough said.
Do the clothes make the woman or does the woman make the clothes?
Both: If you don’t believe me, go ask a naked chick. At the same time, a funky ass woman can mess up an outfit in a hurry. I think it’s a collaborative effort between you and your clothes.
If you could interview one person (from the past, present, or future) who would it be and why?
I’d interview Isis, because she was a bad bitch. If you want to be good at something, then you have to learn from people who do it best. 😉